By Marley Mayer, Regular ContributorNovember 27, 2015
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Sharp words slice my soul.
The vibes that swirl around a room are absorbed right through my skin.
I can sense the loneliness in another person’s eyes the second they walk into the room.
I cry at sad movies. I believe every word that people tell me. I invest my energy into people who don’t necessarily deserve it. I am as gullible as your three-year old cousin. I hurt when other people hurt. I love hard. I fall fast.
Unfortunately, sensitivity is often associated with fragility and weakness.
It is why I have spent most of my life trying to conceal this part of myself. I have tried to dull my emotions and bottle up my passions.
Society doesn’t always like “soft” people like me. They praise rough edges and strong outer shells. Indifference is often admired. Being closed off from your own emotions and the emotions of others is considered the highest form of power.
I have tried to be closed off. There are a million distractions in today’s world that I can look to. I can cloud my mind with social media, trashy TV shows, nights out on the town, bright lights, and mind-numbing small talk.
But the harder I try to suppress this fire, the more lost I feel. So I have decided to stop apologizing for my softness: my soft tears, my soft feelings, my soft tummy, my soft perspective.
I have decided to stop apologizing for it, because there is nothing to apologize for. I am not too much of anything, and neither are you.
There is no such thing as having too much passion, too much empathy, or too much openness.
So don’t underestimate me. I may feel the highs and lows of life with great fervor, but I am really good at riding life’s waves. I don’t turn to puddy the second I am touched. I am not some delicate flower. I don’t break.
I bend. I am fluid.
So don’t underestimate me. Your words might have the ability to change my shape, but never my volume. I might hurt easily, but I will always give love freely. No matter who you are, I will take some of your distress into my own heart in hopes of releasing some of your pain.
So please don’t underestimate me, or others like me. Don’t take advantage of our soft hearts. We are sturdier than we look and stronger than you think. It takes an abundance of courage to walk around the world like a sponge, soaking up both the lovely and the wicked.
From this day forward I will never apologize for my softness, and I hope you don’t either.
Do you have a soft heart? Do you ever feel pressured to be hard instead? How do you maintain your softness? Tell us below!
Marley lives in Madison, WI where she is studying to become a nurse at Edgewood College. She is passionate about travel, learning new things, and all things health related. You would most likely find her outside on an adventure, eating Mexican food, or blogging in a coffee shop. Marley is very excited to share her voice with IATG!
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