By: Dana Zillgitt, Regular Contributor
I’ve never been good at letting other people in or even letting myself become vulnerable enough to let others see my weak side. It’s always just been easier to have my guard up 24/7 than to let someone past the gate patron. I don’t get hurt this way. I don’t get let down, and I don’t get burned. But oh my goodness, do I get lonely sometimes.
Having your guard up all the time doesn’t make Friday nights any easier. It doesn’t make you any stronger, either, which is where I think a lot of people get sucked into it in the first place. Sure, nights off are great every now and then to recharge, reboot, re-whatever but almost every weekend? I’m good on that. Not interested in the slightest anymore in having that writer’s stigma of being a hermit attached to me. And no, whiskey doesn’t make me frisky, it just makes me comparable to the Incredible Hulk instead.
Anyways, back on topic. Why am I so closed off? There’s really no one reason as to why, instead, there’s a whole variety of them. I was the mama bear in high school and part of college. I learned from an early age to shut off emotions in order to take care of another person. And I got my heart broken, just to name a few reasons. Pretty cliché right? But life’s a journey and it’s a peek into mine.
How can I get back on track? How can I start loving myself again and actually mean it this time? Start letting love back into my life. Start becoming more and more positive. Let my actions speak for themselves and to own up to my mistakes. Realize that I am more than my fears, more than my mistakes, and more than my successes. And most importantly, I need to stop letting the fear of missing rule my life. So here’s my pact to you, readers. I will wake up each morning and see the good in every day. To see the world for what it really is: a beautiful, chaotic mess. And to always remember the words of Audrey Hepburn as she said, “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
Connection is key for maximum happiness!
- Being alone can be very empowering and restoring. How do you make sure you're getting enough one-on-one time with you?
- What are some things you like to do that help you connect with other people?
- What are three things you can change to be more open to the friendly and good intentions of others who truly want to get to know the AHmazing YOU?
Dana has her BA in International Affairs & Spanish as well as a mild obsession with rescue animals and all things caffeinated. She’s mastered the art of the selfie, fort building, and even the sass battle. Plus, she can quote 95% of Anchorman and Zoolander.
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