How To Get Ahold of Your Anger

By: Amaranthia Sepia Gittens-Jones, Guest BloggerOctober 4, 2015

After Anger by Amaranthia Sepia Gittens-Jones 

“Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the 'true colors' of an individual. It, on the contrary,becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound the explodes as something foreign, something very different than one's natural self.” ― Criss Jami

Anger is a natural emotion. Of course, it can cause pain and stress to you and those around you. Sometimes it takes over our minds--either slowly building up because of an agitating inner dialogue or bursting forth like an unpredictable, massive volcano. This emotion can be so hazardous it could require therapy or anger management classes. Unresolved anger can cause an array of health issues such as heart attacks, insomnia, stroke, and high blood pressure. What can we do to lessen, or even eliminate, our extreme bouts of anger?

One of the best remedies for calming a stint of anger is to take deep, slow breaths while muttering relaxing words. Phrases like “relax,” “calm down,” and “concentrate” help to focus your mind because they allow you to see the effect your anger has on others as well as on yourself.

Replace those negative thoughts with rational responses such as, “This is a situation that's reasonable to be mad about, but what can I do to solve it or move forward?" Take time to pause and think for a moment. Anger can harshly affect your self-esteem. Depressing, hurtful thoughts against yourself will not only lower your confidence: they can cause depression and self-doubt.

On the other hand, not dealing with emotions, especially anger is a cause of low self-esteem. If these emotions and thoughts are expressed in a healthy manner, you will appreciate and love yourself more instead of constantly putting yourself down.

Recently, I read an article about emotions and the black holes they cause. Dwelling on an upsetting situation makes you spiral down into a black hole. It slowly absorbs you, making it a challenge to remove yourself. These hypothetical "black holes" are created because of pain and anger and can wreck your self-esteem. Some people find it hard to express themselves because of repressed anger. Instead of dealing with a bad day, they allow their negative thoughts to bug them like an annoying house fly. Eventually, their refusal to deal with bothersome issues can cause them to make fake scenarios, which bring up stress and anxiety. After listening to these thoughts for a while, anger ensues and they're stuck in an unhealthy emotional state or a black hole.

In order to cease the rapid absorption by ever-widening black holes, you must recognize the irritating thoughts immediately before they damage your self-esteem.  In my life, I try to deal with anger in a positive way. I find it helpful to understand why these thoughts were created in the first place. Once I figure this out I take a deep breath, face and confront the dark, brooding thoughts, then I try to find the light within. If you consistently approach your anger in this way you will gain more control over your life and feel better about yourself.

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About Amaranthia

AMARANTHIA_GITTENS-JONES_writer_bio.jpgAmaranthia Sepia Gittens-Jones is homeschooled 15 year old. She aspires to be a comic book and graphic artist. Her goal is to finish her graphic novel/fantasy novel ‘Whimsy’ by the end of high school and to become a successful writer and artist.

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  • commented 2015-10-07 03:11:21 -0700
    Today is when I dealt positively with my emotions. I was mad at my sister and I went in my email and saw that I AM THAT GIRL sent me an email. So I decided to sign in and was looking through and I saw this post and it actually made me calm down. I took your advice on taking a deep breath and slowly I started to calm down. Now I feel like I can go to school on a happy note.

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