By: Natascha Jones, Guest Blogger
Oftentimes when we come from a mentality of lack or scarcity we hold on to the things we do have, even if they no longer serve us.
Up until this year I had a closet jam-packed with clothes, hats, shoes and accessories. Some of the clothes in my closet hadn’t been worn in years, but I was keeping them “just in case.” I was afraid that I would need something and I wouldn’t have it because in the past I had experienced that scarcity. I was even attached to certain memories or events that I had affixed to articles of clothing: the skirt I wore the night my ex broke up with me, the dress I wore the day I left Missouri and headed to Los Angeles.
There were even some items in my closet that I LOVED but I had worn them to death. Seeing as I’m always looking for ways to grow and nourish my inner being, I looked at my possessions and I thought about my feelings around attachment. I’m a lot older than those days so long ago when food supply or nice clothes was a little sketchy or meager and I’m also fortunately more financially secure.
We tend to think “If my closet is full of possessions, then I’m full.” But I realized I didn’t just want a closet jam-packed with poor options, I wanted a clutter-free, beautiful space that holds pieces that I love to wear now…today…
I wanted to literally make space for growth and better things in my life. So I cleaned out my closet. I practiced non-attachment in little doses at first: getting rid of things I hadn’t worn in years or items that were no longer age appropriate. It felt amazing. Every shirt I took off a hanger because it “wasn’t good enough anymore” felt like I was taking an old way of thinking or an old habit and removing it from my mindset. I know that seems dramatic – I mean, it’s a white v-neck t-shirt how serious can it be? But it was effective. I took pounds and pounds, probably 60-70 POUNDS of clothes and shoes to the Goodwill. Every pound felt like I was shedding an old life.
I thought my closet would look like Mr. Burns all boney and scarce. But what I was left with was a beautiful, organized collection of better-quality items that I love to wear. And now that I know I can get more of what I love, the pieces I own now, don’t own me. I had literally and mentally lightened my load.
I decided I wanted my life to be like my closet and oftentimes, physically letting go of something or someone has an incredibly powerful effect on our energy, spirit, and the way we carry ourselves. After I cleaned out my closet I turned to another area in life that we often create attachments: the cell phone. I went through my phone and deleted more than 600 phone numbers and email addresses. Whether they were old friends I didn’t see anymore or old relationships that were dead and gone, I decided it was time to let those people go so I could make room for the clutter-free, beautiful people I love today.
I’ll never forget the outfit I was wearing when Zach broke up with me at my favorite restaurant. I surely didn’t need to keep that skirt for proof. And yes I loved that strapless turquoise paisley dress I wore on my cross-country trek. But having it in my closet kept me from making space for new and different road trips.
I’m not saying throwing your stuff away is the sure-fire way to clear an energetic path but sometimes taking a literal action can have real effects.
I’ll be hopping on my friend’s private jet at the end of the month to go away for a little 3-day weekend. I’ll probably wear something new.
What do you think of Natascha's experience? Got the urge to declutter your life and soul? Give it a shot and tell us what you discover here!
While she would have to inform you that her “day” job is in esthetics and makeup artistry, Natascha truly spends her days in sunny Venice Beach laughing with her friends, riding her bike, and telling grandiose stories encouraging others to laugh, cry or think. She is passionate about her efforts to live life fully and push her comfort zone, which is why she spills her guts to you and she hopes you’ll still love her.
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