By: Lorene Belotti, Guest Blogger
I was recently thinking about family bond and especially grandmother and granddaughter ties. We talk a lot about the mother-daughter relationships but what does it mean to have a grandma? What makes a granny so special?
I guess a grandma is our connection to our personal as well as cultural history.
A grandma tells us about her life “at the time” and it opens our eyes. Knowing how she lived, what everyday life was like (In the case of my gram, living during WWII), how she was raised, and the kind of relationships between other families at the time is such a lesson. It makes us realize what they’ve been through, how they’ve become the person you know, and where and how they got their strength. Listening to your grandmother is like doing anthropology work: you can understand the working process of an entire generation and be more open-minded.
You also get better view of your own parents. Knowing about their youth and how they were as children, sometimes, you learn things they wouldn’t tell you. It’s very interesting to have your grandma telling her side of the story and confessing beautiful anecdotes you were not aware of, probably because your parents were too modest to tell you.
Having a grandma is having a connection with the old times even as we’re directing our attention to the future and feeling like we’re running out of time. It helps you to put things into perspective.
Spending time with someone who’s not obsessed with updating her Facebook page (my granny never touched a computer in her life) but who was only concerned by the well-being of her family and the growth of the vegetables in the garden, makes you understand that only the present matters. Being near someone who knew hard times in her life and had an incredibly pragmatic point of view on our actual society is awesome. Everything seems simpler and deeper. No nonsense. No worries for anything, but an incredibly strong character formed by life challenges. I remember one day, when I was telling my granny I was kind of forcing myself to go to a party I didn’t really want go to, she simply answered. “You don’t want to go? So don’t.” From her, the meaning of these simple words were amplified, and I got that she was right; it was not such a big deal to decline the invitation.
I lost my grandma a few weeks ago, and I realized how much one person can change so many lives of so many others. I became conscious of what she brought to me with the discussions we shared. I understood that one great person can link very different people together and this is only the result of love. I especially figured out that many times, simpler people are the deepest ones, that simple things we share are truly the most meaningful (and the one we miss the most), and that my grandma was an incredible role model that I will always keep in my heart.
Lorene is a French observer and learner of life. She’s been working as a salesperson and a marketing assistant for four years to learn the ropes of the business world. She used to be a sports journalist while doing her Master’s degree and she loves writing and telling stories about great people too much not to go back to her first love soon. She lives in the French Alps, and loves to try to solve the world’s problems while having a great meal with her loved ones. She is passionate about foreign languages, self-development books, American TV shows, and people. Oh, and she’s a total nerd of Academic studies (when she’ll win the lottery, she’ll go to Harvard).
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