Give Up The Ghosts

By: Megan Minutillo, Regular Contributor

Give up the ghost

Give up the ghost

Stop the haunting baby.

It's rather amusing to me that I write so much about ghosts, as I hated scary movies as a kid, and if we're being truly honest, I'm not much of a fan of them as an adult either.

But ghosts, I find myself constantly writing about them - I even wrote a play about them, called Ghosts in My Vodka. 

And just to be clear, I'm not talking about the Ghosts in a graveyard. Or our friendly favorite, Casper. 

I'm talking about those Ghosts that creep back into your memory from years past. Those people who made such a mark on your life that they constantly find a way back into your mind just when you thought you locked them far, far away.

And then I turned on this song by Ella Henderson the other day.

And these lyrics came thundering through my car speakers...

Give up the ghost

Give up the ghost

Stop the haunting baby.

And I found myself grinning and singing along.

And I found myself thinking, you go girl - let it all go.

See, that's the tricky thing about ghosts - they start to creep right in, and before you know it, they've taken up permanent residence in your world. They stay in your dreams. They can weigh heavy on your heart.

Sometimes it's the ghost of the lover that meant the world to you. The one that was wrapped up in all the promises of forever. The one who became the other half of your soul. The most important part of your world. 

And when they are no longer part of your daily life, and when the flame of forever has since been extinguished, there's a sadness that can occur. An empty residence of coldness that's perfect home for the Ghost of what was, and the memories of the happiness and love that was shared keep creeping their way back in at the moments when you wish you they wouldn't. Like when all you want to do is lay your head down on that pillow and fall into a blissful sleep - there your Ghost comes, replaying all the moments for you. And sometimes sleep fails you, cause instead of counting sheep, you try and count the moments when it all went awry.


It's an endless cycle - and trust me when I say, it gets you nowhere.

But Ghosts aren't always a lover. They aren't always a friend. Sometimes it's your own demons, nagging at you. The Ghost of comparison. The Ghost of expectation. The Ghost that yells back at you when you look at the mirror - this is all you've accomplished in your life? This is how far you've come? You should have accomplished more by now. You were supposed to be further along by now. You wanted more for yourself by now. 

It's an endless cycle - and trust me when I say, it gets you nowhere. Sensing a pattern here? Good.

Perhaps Ella's words say it best - give up the ghost. Stop the haunting baby.

And I'm just here to echo that beautiful sentiment.

Give up the Ghost, baby. Let it go. The lover. The friend. The job. The expectations. The self-imposed deadlines.

As Elsa would say -- Let. It. Go.

It doesn't do you any good to hold on to yesteryear. 

It doesn't do you good to try and rewrite history.

It doesn't do you any good to live in the shadows of your past.

What will do you some good is holding onto the knowledge that life will ebb and flow. That people will walk out just as quickly as they walked in, and that the most important thing you can do for yourself in those moments is to let it go. Because there will be people that stick with you through it all. Because love shouldn't hurt. It should lift you up. It should bring out the best in you and your beloved.  Hold onto the knowledge that sometimes the path that you thought you would take doesn't let you cruise straight on the highway. Your road has turns. Sometimes there's dead ends. Sometimes you might have to find your way back home just set out on your journey again, and you may have to find a new home within the places and faces of those around you, those who love you.

And that's ok.

Because really, there's no haunting where love lives true. 

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Who or what might be haunting you these days? Find a way to acknowledge their contribution in your growth, your evolution, your journey and then find a way to let. them. GO!

About Megan

Megan_Minutillo-Megan_Minutillo-0117.jpgMegan Minutillo is a playwright, director, and founder of the arts and education site, The Write Teacher(s). Her articles have appeared in HelloGiggles, So Worth Loving, I Am the Modern Career Girl, and Glass Heel. She is currently at work adapting her show, Ghosts in My Vodka, into a musical.




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