By: Victoria Santoro, Guest Blogger
Many words have been written the past few weeks about the new year, the passage of time, resolutions, and goal-setting. It’s a natural time to think about the future and I’m a firm believer in constantly re-evaluating goals and setting new ones. But I have devoted a lot of time to thinking about how best to truly move forward. With some significant life changes, and approaching a new decade, I know that I’d like to take some meaningful steps towards achieving the things I want out of life.
It occurred to me how much I need to let go of, and I didn’t come to this realization on my own. I got an email from an old friend, who brought up some old stuff, and who apologized for something. It was a touching and heartfelt email from a person I had missed. And inside of his apology, there was a release for me. I could let go of some old hurts. It was cleansing and powerful.
This is why letting go is so powerful. Even if the negative thought or memory isn’t on your mind every day, it’s still taking up mental space and, even more importantly, it’s weighing you down. Whether you realize it or not. Because it’s only once you let go, and forgive, that you realize how suddenly light you feel.
For those of you who want to move forward meaningfully and powerfully, I’d take a hard look into your past. Who do you need to apologize to? (Yes, I know, this is a hard one). Who do you need to reach out to? What memory or experience needs to be forgotten? What help do you need (from a friend, therapist, or someone else) to put your past into perspective?
So before you move forward, take a moment to look back, and lighten your emotional load. You’ll free up mental space and emotional energy to give to things you want to focus on in the future. Forgive yourself, forgive your friends, and forgive your family. Forgive everything and move forward happily into your ever after.
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Victoria Santoro is a trial attorney who practices law in Boston. She is also a teacher, speaker, and writer, maintaining her personal blog The Limber Lawyer, and contributing to various legal publications. Victoria is passionate about helping young girls and women not only succeed but also find contentment and purpose. In her free time, she can often be found training or competing for half-marathons and triathlons.