By: Wanda Loreto Andrea Stuardo, Guest Blogger
One of my favorite quotes is by Shakespeare, which nowadays, thanks to a beautiful movie, might be really well known. It goes something like this: “The fault is not in our stars but in ourselves,” which means what happens to us is not destiny's fault, it's ours. Our future is in our very own hands and we seem to just ignore that. We try to ignore that power that we have over ourselves, but why?
I think it is because we are too scared. I was too scared, I am too scared. We are constantly pushed to take decisions in life that we prefer somebody else take for us, not because we don't care, but because sometimes it is really hard to make a choice, it can be about buying something, about going somewhere, or about being with somebody, the thing is we prefer not to choose. The same thing with taking risks, and I'm not talking about climbing mountains or swimming with sharks, I mean daily life risks, like talking to someone you have never talked to or doing something with confidence. Sometimes, “playing it safe” is not the best option because you might be losing something amazing.
I have always loved writing and have always wanted to get my voice to be heard, but for some reason there was always something stopping me. It took me a year and a half to realize that the only thing stopping me from being heard and listened to as I wanted to be was myself. I would always say that I wasn't good enough to participate or that what I wrote wasn't even good because I was afraid of rejection. I was afraid of failure. However, now I understand. If we do not believe in ourselves and live in constant fear, we might never get what we want. We have to stop putting limits to ourselves, we need to go out there and be the most amazing version of us without being scared of what could happen, because if we do, we will be forever asking what could have happened instead.
Don't get me wrong, I don't mean that if you want to steal something from a store you just should go and do it in order not to ask yourself what could have happened. No, that's dangerous and illegal. I mean that if we have the power of building our future (we do), we should believe in ourselves a little bit more, we should not let fear win. I know how it feels to be scared of showing what you do, but if I had not decided to be brave and send an email with my writings, I wouldn't be here speaking to you through words today.
So, the next time you are afraid to audition for a play or to apply to some great opportunity. Do it. You have nothing to lose. Get rid of that fear, throw it away and embrace yourself to your highest level. No one wants to get to old age and regret things they didn't do or chances they didn't take because of fear. There's no one in the whole universe more in charge of your future than yourself. Find your path, think what is best for you, embrace your ideas, and most important, trust yourself.
Take the fear fighting challenge: Commit to tackling ONE thing you're shy about or scared of this week. Maybe it's eating lunch alone, maybe it's applying for that great study abroad program, or maybe it's having a hard conversation with someone important. Tell us what you learn here!
Wanda is a high school Chilean girl that just started a little blog about teenager experiences called Running Life. Theater and writing have helped her the last few years to discover her own voice and not being afraid to share it. Reading, musical theater and TV shows are her guilty pleasure. Her biggest goal in life is to become the best version of herself she can be. More at Running Life
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