By: Selena Vidya, IATG Contributor March 8, 2016
“You are not for everyone. The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people. You are not for everyone and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.” Rebecca Campbell
Being a female entrepreneur can be lonely; it’s not all guts and glamour. It’s scary. It’s overwhelming. On a good month, It’s 90% guts and 10% glamour with a lot of unexpected twists and turns. I have days where I don’t know up from down, and I feel like I’ve fallen through a rabbit hole. There’s a lot of juggling between passion, business, projects, and people. And while these feelings can apply to most anyone, they seem to be more apparent in startup and creative industries.
I think one of the toughest things I’ve encountered while working for myself is allowing myself to truly be me and find those with whom I connect with on all levels, without worrying about whether or not they can handle all aspects of me.
Entrepreneurs tend to be a special mix of energy, curiosity, stress, optimism, pessimism, and a yearning to change the world around them, and this has a tendency to extend into many other passion projects outside of the main jam.
One minute you have your #GirlBoss pants on, and the next minute you might be working on a passion project that requires you to check your business acumen at the door. You might run a company but also be a dancer, an artist, an actor, a writer, a [enter passion here] that requires switching gears multiple times a day. It’s hard to find others to connect with that share your same hopes, fears, and dreams.
It’s easy to feel lonely or have trouble finding peers, and there’s absolutely no shame in that game.
ENTER: Your #VibeTribe
Your #VibeTribe runs on the same vibrations you do. Having a #VibeTribe means having a group of women surrounding you that get you. All parts of you. The good. The bad. The OMG I’m ridiculously stressed out about this client/contract/product/customer/website/audition/book/whateveritmaybe part of you, and the “I have this ridiculously larger than life idea and I want to run it by you” part of you. ALL of it. They’re your friends, your personal advisory board, your peers, your source of laughter and tears, and stress relief.
These can be life-long friends or friends that you’ve made along the entrepreneurship path who have been in your shoes and just get it. You can find tribe members in unexpected places - meetup groups (meetup.com is great for this) revolving around your business and/or passion, platforms like Glassbreakers.co, which allows you to connect with other women in your respective fields or fields you want to explore, and, of course, there’s this wonderful I AM THAT GIRL community that always has your back.
Just know that you’re not alone if you’re attempting the journey of entrepreneurship. It’s a wild, wild rollercoaster, but try setting up weekly times with your #VibeTribe with no holds barred. This can involve drinks or no drinks, brunch, long walks, hikes, whatever it may be. Everyone can show up with the understanding that you’re there to share, help, extend a hand, and generally be a support to one another. The important part of this is to make sure that everyone stays positive and uplifting, rather than dwelling in the negative. It’s easy to feed off of one another’s negativity, and we want to make sure we’re bringing joy and stress-free engagement to one another.
I’ve found that some of the best ideas, future planning, fun and business ventures come out of these types of low-key, high bonding, super creative, no holds barred hangouts.
What are some of your favorite things to do with your VibeTribe when you need to simultaneously de-stress, share advice, and mutually support each other? Try something new with your VibeTribe this week!
Selena Vidya is an entrepreneur, actress and host of the @permission_less podcast. You can find her creating (and sometimes breaking) things in startups & entertainment, working on digital strategy for her clients, or face down in a large vat of coffee.
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