By: Allison Annala, IATG ContributorAugust 1, 2016
It’s a four-letter word that means something different to everyone.
No one is entirely fearless, and the definition of the word changes depending on its inhabitant. Some people are afraid of the dark, some spiders, and some heights. While all of those things have created a sense of uneasiness in my life at one time or another, my fear comes in the form of six letters arranged to form a single word, “ENOUGH.”
Marianne Williamson said, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” While I wholeheartedly agree with this statement, I know that I do not actively utilize this train of thought. My fear of failure is real. My fear of not living up to my potential overwhelms me. My fear of letting others down is a daily struggle.
My fear of choosing the wrong path often keeps me at a standstill.
When this occurs, I freeze, doubting myself and my choices… or lack of choices. I envy the doers, the spontaneous people who make choices based on their emotions, who live free of fear and doubt. They always seem to have more fun and more adventures and more life. Although, I’m sure that way of life harbors a few more consequences than meets the eye.
I think that on occasion my fear of failure has limited me. Perhaps I haven’t grown in certain areas of my life because I’ve been too afraid to take many risks. I wonder if I have caused my own feelings of inadequacy because I’ve limited my ability to grow. Maybe I feel like I’m not enough, because my fear hasn’t permitted me to actually BE ENOUGH.
I love Marianne’s idea about our ability to be powerful, strong, successful human beings. It’s such a positive spin on the self-doubt that I struggle with frequently. Instead of looking at my fears as limitations, I need to think of them as challenges to overcome and remember that I am only as limited as I allow myself to be.
The risk you take to try to succeed goes hand and hand with the risk it takes to potentially fail. “We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?... And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne has it right. Let’s step forward, allowing our light to shine brightly. Fear is only as strong as we allow it to be. And I choose to fight darkness with light. As our fearless leader, Alexis Jones shared in her book, I AM THAT GIRL, I know that no matter what life throws at me “I am enough, I have enough, I do enough.”
It’s time to crush fear and insecurities and remind yourself just how badass you are! Grab a sticky note and write I AM ENOUGH boldly on it. Then post it somewhere you’ll see everyday! We could all use the reminder!
Allison is a huge advocate for girls and women, particularly when it comes to body image and self-worth! She coaches gymnastics and teaches at her Alma Matter, the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater. Visit her blog www.allison-lifeisbeautiful.blogspot.com.