By: Jessica Scire, Guest Blogger
If you asked me ten years ago, “Jessica, where do you see yourself in ten years?” I’d surely respond with bright eyes something to the effect of having a husband, children, and a single-family home in the suburbs. I’d host Sunday dinners at my home and take the family dog for walks every night. What else would you be doing at the age of 26, right? Wrong. As I take a personal inventory of my successes and “failures” (which I have come to recognize are really lessons), I realized that I am not where I want or expected to be at my age. I’ve spent too much time worrying about where I am in life—how I’m not married or a mother. How I don’t own any property yet, but instead owe loans for my not always appreciated education. I’ve thought about it so much that sometimes I can be my own biggest bully. Jessica, what are you doing with your life? How come you are so far behind? Your biological clock is ticking! Sizing myself up to my peers and my 16-year-old dreams has resulted in not bettering myself, but in fact undermining my perception of my self worth.
If my self-reflection is negative, how does that affect my drive, passion, and mission in this world? How does it affect my relationships with others? How does it affect my relationship with myself? They say that your 20s is a decade of learning and growth, discoveries and adventure. Boy, is that right. Through some self-discovery, self-reflection, and self-love, I have started to realize that it’s OK that I am not where my 16-year-old self predicted.
My 16-year-old self would have never imagined the lessons I have learned, the people I have met, the heartache I have endured, and the love I have experienced. Isn’t that what it’s really about? The experiences we have shape who we are. They are unique to us and no one else. It is up to us to take away what we will from these moments. The journey we take and how we get through life is just as important as the goal. We must appreciate and never take advantage of the moments we encounter while we are on the road to our own personal success in life—that’s where the magic happens. If we are always looking toward the future, then what happens to our present? It’s time to slow it down, take it all in, and love it for what it is—that includes ourselves and where we are at that moment. Appreciating the qualities in ourselves at the existing moment allows us to engage in deeper relationships with not only ourselves, but also with others. So, I challenge you to think about where you are in life, where you want to be, but most of all what you love about where you are right now on your journey—presently being awesome you. You are somewhere on the path, being perfect you, perfectly. You will continue on in life, encountering some hard and some easy moments, and on your way figure out what makes you, YOU: What you’re good at, what you’re not so good at, what you like, what you don’t like, what makes you happy, and what makes you not so happy. We unlock all of these doors as we journey throughout life. As you journey, always keep with you the knowledge that you are the only you on earth, you are here for a reason, you have a purpose, you matter, and you are loved. Your life is a work in progress--you might as well have a blast being your fabulous self while you’re on the ride.
Jessica Scire is a 26-year-old woman living in the Boston area. She teaches Pre-K in Boston, MA and is currently working towards her M.Ed. Jess is a co-leader of the I AM THAT GIRL: Boston Chapter. She loves spending time with her family and friends, reading, laughing, playing with her dog, going for walks, and eating ice cream.