Do as I Say, Not as I Do

Sometimes you have to get a heaping spoonful of your own medicine to be properly humbled. I was on a phone call recently with one of my my dearest friends, mentors and board members for I AM THAT GIRL. We were doing our monthly, check-up call and as I was sharing the highs, lows, wins and losses over the past few weeks, a very personal moment came up. I confessed that within the organization, there was an aspect of my passion that I wasn’t expressing or pursuing. I told him that one of the most inspiring things to me and what was the impetus for IATG in so many ways was the day I stood on stage and performed The Vagina Monologues my sophomore year of college.

It was in that moment that I realized the power of storytelling and fell in love with performance. I was blown away by Eve Ensler and her ability to use media as well as entertainment to build community while simultaneously educating and creating awareness. While there are incredible things I love about my job, I have been lacking my deep desire to story tell and confessed that I had been playing with an idea for years of an interview show. Within minutes I was on fire talking about how different, exciting, savvy, authentic, candid and relevant this show could be, especially with all of the inauthentic conversations and interviews out there.

His simple response was, �Then why aren�t you doing it?� Right out of the gate I had more excuses then a zebra has stripes. There was the money, the know-how, the intimidation of doing something I�m actually passionate about, and the fear of failing miserably. Before you know it, I had drowned my own dream before she even got the chance to float.

He responded by saying, �Wow, and you have the audacity to get up on stage and tell students to pursue their dreams at all costs. Doesn�t seem like that�s the case at all. So what are you going to do about it, keep this dream locked up in your mind for the next four years and tell yourself that maybe, one day you could have been really great at that?�

I was called out for playing small in life. I was reminded that despite being a professional encourager, I sometimes need it too and that if you really want something you have to go for it, no matter what. The icing on the cake is that my producer friend followed up by offering a few motivational words.

"So here's the deal," he proclaimed. "You put together your dream list of people to interview, you do the work, script out what, where and how and I'll produce the first five episodes. Either way, there's no excuse for you to wait one more second because no one is coming to save you and make all your dreams come true. Be your own hero and I'll help make it happen."

I actually spent the last few hours on my flight from New York  to Los Angeles dreaming up a storm and maybe the episodes are terrible, maybe it never gets picked up or I decide it wasn't what I thought it would be, but I don’t want to be the girl who wakes up one day and wonders what could have been. So my challenge today is to go for it, and have faith that the people in your life are willing to support your dreams if you're willing to give them a shot!Images courtesy of,

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