By: S. Elle Cameron, Guest Blogger
“Someone will always be prettier. Someone will always be smarter. Someone will always be younger. But they'll never be you. They'll never be YOU.” -Tanni Sattar
I think I’m going to stick with the “sticking together” as women theme. For the past two months, I touched on women putting each other down and drifting apart when we become competitive. This month I want to talk about the importance of not comparing ourselves to one another. Of course we hear this all the time but we don’t actually listen or demonstrate it in our personal lives.
So many of us hold ourselves back because we choose to compare ourselves to the next female (or person) who seems to be doing what we wish we could. Usually comparing ourselves results in feelings of inadequacy or self doubt. As a result of not feeling good enough, we never go after what we truly want. Or, we put in our minds that we’ve already failed so we might as well not try.
Sadly, this is true for myself as well. There are so many things I would have done or could have had, if I didn’t compare myself to everyone else. I become intimidated when I see a person (especially another woman who is considered my peer) succeeding at something I hope/wish to do. It makes me feel like “why should I even try?” “I can’t compete with that!”
That’s the thing! We shouldn’t think we have to compete at all!
Society has warped our views to make us believe that everything is a comparison and a competition. It’s not! We should go after what we love simply because we love to do it. There will ALWAYS be someone better than you! Knowing this shouldn’t stop you.
I remember a quote from a famous television series when one of the characters stated something to the extent of, “I wasn’t the smartest or the best, I just wanted it more than anybody else.” This quote couldn’t be any truer. In fact, it reminds me of a quote by the beautiful, talented, and very intelligent Marilyn Monroe. She once said, “I used to think as I looked out on the Hollywood night, ‘There must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me dreaming of being a movie star.' But I'm not going to worry about them. I'm dreaming the hardest.” After reading this quote some years ago, I decided to get the words “Dream Hard” tattooed on my rib cage. Not long after that I started to go for the things I doubted myself in.
Now, I still haven’t gotten to the point where I feel like I can do anything, but I hope to push myself to where I can actually say “ I went for it!” I hope you all can learn to do the same. We have to stop comparing and start doing! No, you’ll never be her, but then again, she’ll never be you! BE THAT GIRL and always remember that!
Let's chat! In what situations do you compare yourself to others most? Be it work, school, or anything, how can you cut out the comparisons? Tell us here!
S. Elle Cameron is the 23 year old author of the Young Adult/New Adult novel, A Tragic Heart & RED. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. She is also the founder of Outsider Fiction. To learn more, visit her at www.sellecameron.com or www.sellecameron.blogspot.com
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