Choose Connection Over Competition

By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor

“Girls compete with each other, women empower one another.” –Unknown

This world would be such a lighter place if the competition and pettiness that so often creep into our lives were a thing of the past. I’ve watched a few documentaries lately about women and all of the interviews and statistics just find the same thing: that women are ALL fighting the same fight. We don’t feel beautiful all the time; we are bullied, made fun of, left out, afraid to fail, and broken. We are also putting on a brave face, telling the world “I’m fine,” trying to find true friendship, and hoping that one day who we really are, is enough.

If we could just choose to start living with overwhelming compassion, eventually it will spread to all the women we meet. It’s hard to treat someone with understanding and love when they don’t support you or are being rude or disrespectful. But if we could dedicate ourselves to the mentality that “everyone is fighting a battle that we know nothing about” I believe those battles would be less and less. If we didn’t have to worry about what other women were saying about us or if whether or not they would support us in anything this life brings, I know at least my stress and brokenness wouldn’t be as great.


We have an opportunity to join together and to look deeper into someone’s life instead of judging, gossiping, and ignoring. It breaks my heart when I hear stories of 12-year-olds not letting a certain girl sit with them at lunch or making fun of the clothes she wears. I also hate when I hear of girls hating their bodies and dieting, in middle school. Guess where these girls are learning how to act? By watching us. They look up to women our age and celebrities, and if we could change the way we act towards each other, the trend would continue and we could save these young girls from a world of hurt. Not only that, we can save ourselves from continuing the brokenness and we could start living with each other instead of against each other.

I want other women to feel better about who they are because they’ve met me. I want my friends to know that whenever they need me I will be there, no judgment, just a listening ear to help their life be a little easier. I will support my friends and acquaintances in any way that I can. Because as long as I’m here, it is my responsibility to other women to help them and not make them feel like we’re in competition or like what they’re doing isn’t important. I’m not saying it’ll always be easy, and there will be days when you will fall short of being your best self. But that’s why we need ALL women to think this way, because when you’re not at your best. Your friend will be. And together we’ll remind each other to live better, love more, and support always.

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About Kate

Kate_Byline.jpgShe moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.


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