Checking in with Yourself

By Allison Annala, Regular ContributorNovember 13, 2015


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How do you feel about you?

I know… it’s a pretty bold question. In complete and total honesty, I’m not even sure how to answer this question at the moment. However, I think it’s a question I need to pose to myself… a way of sort of checking in with me, so I thought I’d pose it to you, my friends.

How do you feel about you?

Are you content with you? And no, I’m not asking if you like your outfit today, if your hair is doing what you asked of it this morning, or if your acne has cleared to the point of feeling confident. Throw all of those first thoughts out the door. Just clear them from your mind. Now I’ll ask you again…

How do you feel about you?

How are you doing inside? Are you joyful today or are you struggling to make it to the day’s end? Are you stressed about an impending commitment or are you flying high with confidence at school or work? How are you feeling, really?

How is your relationship with you? Have you asked yourself how you’re doing lately? Have you treated yourself to your favorite meal or spent some time with your favorite person? How about exercise? Have you gifted yourself with a challenge for your mind, body, or soul?

These questions can bring about some feelings of uncertainty.

I like to think that I’m pretty good at asking these questions of my loved ones, but until recently, I rarely took the time to ask myself these important things. If I did this right now, here’s what you’d get:

No… I do not feel like I’m flying high at work.  I’m rather stressed with everything that’s going on.

I did spend some time with some of my favorite people this weekend, so my heart is warm and full of love from that.

I have been very busy at work so I have struggled to find time to exercise.

I am very excited about the healthy meals I have planned for dinner this week.

It’s amazing really, because before I sat down to write today, I had no idea why I was feeling so exhausted. However, once I checked in with myself, I gained a bit of perspective and some peace of mind that completely validated where my tired state of mind was coming from.

Someone recently commented on how they thought I “had it all together,” and without any ability to filter my response, I laughed! I didn’t mean to be disrespectful in any way, shape, or form, but to me, what this individual saw as “having it all together” was really just my ability to check in with myself. On any given day I could literally curl up in the fetal position and stay there due to my overwhelming schedule. But in the last year, I’ve really done a much better job of checking in with myself and listening to my needs.

You’re exhausted. It might be time to pass this project on to someone else.

Tonight might be a good night to get to bed an hour early.

This Sunday you’re going to meal prep for the week so that you can catch up on good nutrition.

We’re all just doing the best that we can. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

If you can take five minutes each day to check in with yourself and ask those tough questions, you’ll be able to intervene with those struggles and setbacks in a quicker manner, not allowing them to fester or interfere with your everyday life.

I hope you’re doing great today, but if you’re not… don’t be afraid to say that you’re not. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay to ask for help. When you don’t acknowledge that you’re going through a hard time is when it usually gets worse.

No one has it all together… even those people who seem like they do! So chin up, BeautyFull! Take a deep breath, figure out what you need, and find a way to give that help to yourself. I promise, it’s worth it.

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About Allison

ALLISON_ANNALA_writer_bio_(1).jpgA gymnast since age 4, Allison uses the life lessons learned through the sport to help young women discover their greatness! She is a huge advocate for girls and women, particularly when it comes to body image and self-worth! Along with coaching, Allison now teaches at her Alma Matter, the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater. She loves sharing her passion for gymnastics with women of all ages and her passion for life and love on her blog She is so thrilled to be an advocate for IATG and can’t wait to help inspire women all over the world! 


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  • commented 2015-11-19 06:59:18 -0800
    Emily, you’re very welcome! Thank you for the sweet words! I think everyone can benefit from taking a pause to really explore how we are doing inside. It’s the best way to stay in touch with how we’re doing!! xoxo
  • commented 2015-11-18 05:40:36 -0800
    I love this post!

    A simple, positive and encouraging way to ensure we stop every now and then and look after ourselves – thankyou x
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