By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor
“Photoshop can only correct the flaws that society tells you are there. It can’t enlarge your confidence, erase your self-doubt, crop out your fears, or heal your scars.”
I have been so fascinated with Photoshop recently. In my opinion, the majority of women are mostly opposed to extreme Photoshop, at least the women I’ve talked to. We fight it, but we’re obsessed with it. The more I hear about Photoshop having horrible effects on women, the more I see us downloading apps to filter and Photoshop our own photos. And trust me I am more than guilty. I spend way too much time trying to find the best filter to make my face not look as red, or to have the shadows on my body be more flattering. It’s a time consuming black hole.
Are we “perfecting” our images in an attempt to perfect our lives, to make them look more glamorous and beautiful to the Internet? I know I am, if I’m being honest. I want my friends to think I look thin and like “I woke up like this.” I think I’m making a sad attempt to make people jealous of the life I wish I had. Maybe if people think my life is awesome, I will believe it is too. Maybe if I get over 50 likes on this photo I will be able to validate that I’m beautiful.
I hope this isn’t just me because I sound pretty self-absorbed, but I’m more self-conscious than anything. We really don’t have to try so hard or put ourselves down so much. My friend was at work with me the other day and we were talking about my birthday plans. I didn’t think anyone would really want to spend money to spend a weekend with me or go out of their way to do something special. My friend just looks at me and says “you are so well-liked, of course they will.” That comment doesn’t seem like much and we just breezed on through the conversation, but it stuck with me. Why do my friends like me, I’m pretty sure it’s from the breakfasts we share and the conversations we have, not how many people liked my Instagram photo or because they think I look skinny and fit in my profile picture.
It’s about time we stop filtering our lives to look perfect; or at least stop the obsession of it. To tell you the truth I will probably still be using Instagram. But I don’t need to use it in an attempt to look awesome or to validate my life. Vulnerability is a beautiful thing. It’s how you can share yourself with the world and showing who you are will not only allow everyone else to fall in love with you, but you will fall in love with yourself in the most beautiful way. Let’s keep the imperfections, love our battle wounds, and not pray that the shadows of Instagram filters erase parts of who we are. Because who we are, raw and unfiltered, is pretty damn fantastic.
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She moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.