By: S. Elle Cameron, Guest Blogger
“We teach girls to shrink themselves; to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, "You can have ambition but not too much.”- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
All of my life I heard the words, “…but that’s a man’s job” and “girls don’t do that!” This caused me to feel a load of resentment towards being a woman. I grew up hating everything that was female oriented and I wished that I was born a boy. It just wasn’t fair to me that boys got to have all of the fun while girls had to sit back and watch or play with a plastic doll. Although it wasn’t intentional, the women in my life were teaching me how to lower my standards and let a man take control (because that’s how it should be, duh!).
I wasn’t old enough to know what a feminist was but I was probably one since I was five years old. I didn’t want to wear a dress because that’s what a girl was supposed to do; if I wore a dress it was because I wanted to. In my mind, I was just as good as the boys so why couldn’t I do the same things? My grandmother and sister would explain to me that boys can do certain things that girls would never be able to do. Something about this didn’t sound right to me.
I was just as strong as the boys growing up and my attitude was just as big, what did it matter that we had something different behind our jeans? We’re all human, aren’t we? Growing up, I was made to believe that being born a male was like hitting the jackpot and I’m sure many of you out there can relate.
Truth is being a woman is hitting the jackpot! We have things inside of us that men could never fathom. We’re powerful and our longevity in almost every area is undeniable. Point blank: we’re amazing! I’m thankful to be living in an age where women are becoming praised for their resilience and status in society.
Women no longer have to lower their standards or change who they are so that they won’t threaten society’s image of them. As women, we should be able to wear what we want, say what we want, and do as we please! The year is 2014 not 1914 and it is time for us to stand up and do all the things we were told we shouldn’t. We’re just as strong and just as smart as the leading man so let’s take our rightful role. If we can bear the pain of childbirth then we can take rejection. We’re stronger than they told us. I’m sorry to tell you but they lied when they said we were inferior and those rules they set up for us was to hold us back so we wouldn’t cross their limits. Society set those rules because women were a threat to their standards since the beginning of time. What species can bleed for seven days without dying? Isn’t that pretty remarkable? And that’s only what we can do physically!
Mentally we are much more than they portray. It’s time to let go of what they told us and move into the future, a future where women are equal. It’s a future where we can tell our daughters, “BE THAT GIRL!”
It's a critical time in our culture to come together as women and lift each other up instead of tear each other down.
- What makes being a girl great? How do you celebrate being a girl?
- How do you define feminism? How has feminism helped or held back girls and women today?
- What would you like to see change about the way women are treated in the world today?
About S. Elle:
S. Elle Cameron is the 22-year-old author of the Young Adult novel, A Tragic Heart. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. To learn more, visit her at www.sellecameron.com or www.sellecameron.blogspot.com Twitter: @SElleCameron. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorS.ElleCameron?fref=nf
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