By Daniella Aryeh, Guest Blogger August 13, 2015
Take off all the makeup, girl, Shine your light, show the world. Don’t be shy, don’t be scared, You don’t have to hide under there. -“Nobody Ever Told You” by Carrie Underwood
This is good advice, but easier said than done. To be real, to be completely authentic, to let everyone see ALL of you is so difficult.
Back in December, I was fixing up my resume for an interview, making sure it was updated. And I remember smiling, thinking of all I’ve accomplished. I was proud to show potential future employers my resume, because it’s basically a highlight reel of me being awesome. But all those great things I’ve done are the easy things to share.
I’ll admit it. For a very long time, I didn’t feel comfortable being me. I don’t think I knew how to be. And sometimes I STILL don’t feel comfortable being who I am, even in front of my closest family members and friends. For a long time I’ve had trouble opening up to people, and tended to struggle alone. Not healthy, I am quite aware.
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It’s so hard to be completely honest with people, to show all of who we are- cracks and scars included. I don’t want to admit that I don’t always have it together. I don’t want to tell those I’m not close with that I’m having a hard time, because I just feel like it’s none of their business.
With those who I respect or am close with, I just want them to think that I am awesome and I am able to hold it all together all the time. But that’s not authentic.
And in that space of pretending to have it all together all the time, its exhausting, is it not?! I think it is! There are a lot of times that I am not fine. AT ALL. And I’m tired of holding it in. And I’m working really hard on admitting it.
Whatever it is that you’re struggling with, we all have it.
I once heard Alexis Jones say that the two most comforting words in English that you could every hear are “me too.” Whatever it is that you’re struggling with, we all have it. We all have our share of scars, wounds and cracks. We all have battles ahead of us to fight, which we will sometimes win and sometimes lose. Sometimes we can stand tall in the face of everything, and sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we bend, sometimes we sway.
We overcompensate so much. We ascribe all of our worth to all of these great things that we achieve, when really our worth is innate. And we have to start believing in that. Its not easy, I know. I struggle with it every day. But I am working on it.
But if you have the bravery to be honest and say that you are going through a rough time, you'll find it leads to real relationships. Grant people permission to see ALL of you: the fabulous, magnificent, and broken, messy and convoluted, and beautiful parts. And don’t you think for one second that that version of you is not enough.
How do you embrace your perfect imperfections? Tell us below!
Daniella is a certified speech language pathologist living in NY. She loves traveling, meeting new people, hanging on the beach, and will read anything she can get my hands on. She is obsessed with country music and constantly quotes Friends and One Tree Hill.
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