Our San Diego chapter

Girls need girls. It’s a fact. Whether it’s ogling over our latest crush (and don’t pretend we EVER grow out of it), crying over our most recent disappointment, laughing at our absurdities, or confiding our deepest, farthest, back-of-the-closet secret; we need to be heard. Through sharing our experiences we have an opportunity to explore our own thoughts, work through our emotions and discover new kernels of truths.

For some time I thought I could figure out how to eliminate insecurities, fears and doubts for girls and women. If only I had the right formula, magic pill or workshop. I could find a way to instill authentic confidence in girls and women everywhere so they were free to fulfill if not surpass their potential and powerfully contribute to the world. The reality is that I can’t. I don’t have a cure-all that will remove the challenges and obstacles inundating the human experience. No human being for that matter has that ability.

My revelation emerged from a company meeting where a group of us were sitting around chitchatting about nothing really (like girls do). We talked about work, dabbled in politics and circumnavigated the uncharted waters of relationships. That’s when it happened; our conversation about nothing became about everything. We brought up issues of quarreling co-workers, struggles with body image, society’s high expectations, third-world countries and naturally, boys.

Before you knew it, our “business meeting” had transformed into a group of healing listening, compassionate respect and validating patience. There were no epiphanies, or calendar-making breakthroughs. If it were any other day, I would have over looked it completely, but not this time. The light bulb went off and I wondered if all girls had this kind of outlet to be heard and to hear others?

It’s important that even if we don’t have the immediate answers that we are made to feel we’re not alone. There’s comfort in that. There’s fearlessness in knowing you have a crew backing you up, a group of women protecting you and looking out for you. That’s when we realized this tangible community is vital to our existence. If we are going to change this world, if we are going to empower one another and ignite a revolution, it’s going to require that we come together and support one another. If a man chooses to be an island, he can be alone all by himself. I’m not interested in going through life’s safari alone. We’re stronger and more equipped to handle life’s curve balls when we have a whole team out there on the field with us.

So we created local chapters for girls to get plugged in and find other like-minded women out to make a difference in the world. We need an army of women, a dream team of relentless activists who will dedicate one night a week for an hour or so to a group of women who also want to leave this world better than how they found it. We already have chapters in most big cities, but we need more. If there’s one in your hometown, then get involved! If not, start your own.

We meet once a week, provide the content for the meeting, the girls and the space. As little as three members, as big as almost fifty in our San Diego Chapter. Either way, it’s an opportunity for girls to empower other girls. Where women on the same wave length can come together and support one another.

And I get it, you’re busy. We all are. But it’s not for us, it’s for you. You need it, we all do. But better yet, we deserve it in our lives. We deserve taking some time for ourselves once a week and having an outlet to talk about things that matter in this world. We deserve being listened to and having a place to share. I am that girl just launched local chapters to make that a reality. Badass women coming together to change the world. We need you in this revolution, we need your voice and your life’s unique brand. Make it a reality, make you a priority. Get involved, sign up, and start your own. I don’t care what you do, but 2010 is the year for you.

It would be an honor to have you come in the name of i am that girl and share your life’s journey with us. To find out more about our local chapters, or if you want to be a badass and start your own, contact Rosalind Adams at rosalindzoeadams@gmail.com.

Until then, keep rockin’ this world and being That Girl.

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The third Thursday in November is the official start of the “Holiday” season. The season creates an extra level of love in the air for everyone. Even those who do not celebrate this Christian holiday feel the frenzy of goodwill towards all of humankind.

I kicked off my holiday season during an intense transition in my life, commonly known as a “breakup.” Not wanting to spend the day of gratitude with my roommate/ex-boyfriend, I took a road trip to spend the day with a BFF from High School. Anyone who has ever gone through an “intense transition/breakup” knows the true value of a good old fashioned pig-out, a few adult beverages and girl time. 

This Thanksgiving provided the therapy and fresh air I needed to push through my intense transition and frenzy of goodwill for the next month or so. 

My BFF I spent the day with an extremely brilliant woman who happens to date other women. I was able to spend this day of gratitude making lots of new friends who do not share the same taste in partners, but who did share the same “You Go Girl” attitude.

I must admit, walking into a room of lesbians was a bit intimidating at first. I don’t know if I was intimidated because I knew that these women possibly possessed an unfamiliar strength, or because I would be the only heterosexual woman. 

Within minutes of walking into the room, I felt at peace. All of the women were extremely friendly and supportive of one another. It was a much different vibe compared to walking into a room of heterosexual women. There was no sense of cattiness, nobody cared that my jeans were $200, what I did for a living, how many guys I had slept with, or who I was there with. We discussed politics, fashion and celebrities, cracked jokes and made plans to save the world one woman at a time. 

The group of women I spent Thanksgiving with had tapped into the strength of this Sisterhood and they were united as women. What exactly are they doing to tap into this? How can we as heterosexual women build the same sort of alliance? I don’t think we need to change our sexual preferences to gain this strength. I believe that these women share a common denominator, their sexuality, which helped unite them. 

What is our common denominator? What link are we missing to build our alliance as women? I will continue to look within my relationship circles for this answer and work on building stronger relationships with the women in my life to try and tap into this. I hope that if you are taking the time to read this, you too will try and tap into this as well.

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