Benefits of a Rash Decision

By Madeline Brady, Regular ContributorAugust 11, 2015

My whole life I’ve been a planner: birthday parties, club meetings, college applications, and family vacations. You name it; I’ve planned it. I’ve always found great comfort in planning things out. I like to be prepared, mentally and physically, for whatever is coming my way. I want to pack the right clothes, bring the correct papers, and know where I’m sleeping at the end of the day. I would be anxious without my plans, but I’m starting to realize there’s only so much you can do…

I recently did something rash, and not in a small way like eating cake for breakfast or doing hot yoga. I made a life altering decision in 2 days flat. 2 days! It’s suffice to say that I did not plan this new path of mine. No pro-con lists, no late nights of research, and no long coffee dates with my friends seeking advice.

I saw an opportunity and I told myself yes, even though it wasn’t what I had originally wanted or planned on. And you know what? It feels awesome.

It feels strangely liberating not having everything planned out, and I think it’s because I know this is the right decision for me. I don’t need to make the lists and check them twice, because I no longer need convincing. I am confident in my ability to know what’s good for me, and, at this moment, I am the only person I need to please.


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I think, especially as women, we run into this need to make everyone happy; it’s part of the way our society has constructed the female gender. We are conditioned to put everyone around us before ourselves, and somewhere along the way my planning became a form of that. Sure, sometimes I’m unsure of what I want and deliberating my options is absolutely the best thing to do. But other times I had made my decision already but went through all the labor of researching and planning in order to convince others that my thinking was sound, reliable, and smart. I never felt trusted to make my own decisions unless I could convince someone else of them.

But here I am, relishing this opportunity to confidently move in the direction that I have chosen for myself, even if it doesn’t make everyone in my life happy.

I dive in knowing I have the strength, resourcefulness, and audacity to handle whatever comes my way and to remain resolute in the knowledge that I made the best decision for myself. And who knows? Maybe improvisation will become my new thing…

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About Madeline

MADELINE_BRADY_writer_bio_(1).jpgMadeline Brady is a soon-to-be recent graduate of Bryn Mawr College where she majored in English and Theater. She is looking forward to joining the real world, learning how to cook more than cereal, and living abroad after graduation. Her passions include running, music, feminism, and spending way too much time on Instagram.
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