Being A Bridesmaid: A Look Back

By: Maggie Manfredi, Guest Blogger June 27, 2015

They say when you marry in June that you will always be a bride, but what is to be said for the bridesmaid?

At the end of May I boarded a cross-country flight. Just a few months prior I received a call from an old friend with a request, for me to be one of her bridesmaids. It’s a funny thing how it can be years and with one phone call you fall right back into the rhythm of an old relationship. We laughed, I cried, and I said yes.

The bride and I were kindred spirits as young teens under the big sky. We drove aimlessly together with no destination, we broke the rules, and met boys...One of which a man now, who looked perfectly content at the end of the aisle awaiting his girl.

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They have a baby girl. She wore baby’s breath on her head and a sky blue dress for the occasion. The bride’s father read E.E.cummings and it rained lightly as they said 'I do' under dusky clouds and a flower alter. It was perfectly imperfect. They also say rain is good luck on your wedding day.

There is a sense of immediate community between the women in a bridal party, or I may have just gotten incredibly lucky. I got to spend time with a group of women all on different paths in life, with different definitions of love. But everyone came together to believe in forever on that day. I think a wedding is just as much about hope as it is love.

I got to spend time with a group of women all on different paths in life, with different definitions of love. But everyone came together to believe in forever on that day. 

We zipped each other in and danced the night out together. I rekindled old friendships and made new ones. We laughed, we cried, and our friend said yes. It wasn’t that long ago but the beautiful memories continue to fill me up. There was real support, a celebration of love, and of course all the drinks and dancing. I was truly honored to be a part of it. A wedding, and a restoration in hope and true kindred spirits, in all forms.

“Here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

I carry your heart with me(I carry it in my heart)” -E.E. Cummings


About Maggie

MAGGIE_MANFREDI.jpgMaggie is a nearly with-it working girl and proud owner of a B.A. in Communication. She spends her free time on the phone with one of her three crazy sisters or reviewing some form of entertainment news. Her hobbies do not include competitive dog grooming, CrossFit or puzzles (she is lousy at puzzles). 

 

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  • commented 2015-06-29 05:46:02 -0700
    This post is absolutely spot on. I am going to be in a wedding May 2016 and it is ironically the first wedding i have ever been asked to be a part of. I too felt the immediate bond among the rest of the bridesmaids as we all have the same goal of making the bride’s day and wedding experience memorable and awesome!

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