By: Jolie Brownell, IATG ContributorSeptember 12, 2016
If you could have heard the conversations I used to have in my head, you would assume I was talking to my worst enemy:
“What is wrong with you?”
“Yeah, that shirt looks like crap on you.”
“Good morning zit face.”
“Another pair of pants that don’t fit, you’re so fat.”
“Oh, you really think you can do that, huh...yeah, no you can’t.”
“Ugh, if you could only lose 20 pounds, you would look so much better.”
But I wasn’t talking to an enemy. I was just talking to myself. Hurtful, right?
Why do we treat ourselves so horribly when we’re supposed to be our own best friends?
Why do we constantly rip ourselves apart when we’re supposed to be our greatest supporters?
I believe many of us, including myself, need to learn how to be nicer to ourselves and, ultimately, how to love ourselves wholeheartedly. So here is a guide on how to be your own best friend. We all will have our own journeys towards self-love, but here are a few good starting points.
1. Accept everything you are right now
We all have an image of what we want ourselves to look like and be like, but we won’t ever get there if we can’t accept ourselves for who we are right now. Learning to accept your starting place allows you to take a step forward and accomplish your goals. When we don’t accept ourselves, we get stuck in this place called self-hate, which never leads anywhere good.
2. Give yourself compliments
It took me a long time to learn what it meant to love myself, because there’s a big difference between saying, “I love myself,” and actually treating myself like I do. Love isn’t words; it’s action. We need do things that make us feel loved, and I decided to give myself compliments, because as you saw before, I need help with positive self-talk.
3. Whatever you need to do to feel appreciated by yourself
We all have our own idea of what self-love looks like, so this last tip is free for you to choose. Maybe you choose to take yourself on me-dates? Or give yourself extra me-time during the week? But whatever you decide, make sure it’s to help you be better friends with yourself.
You shouldn’t be your worst enemy. You should be your best friend. So this month make it a priority to better your relationship with yourself. It’s ok to love yourself, because you, out of anyone, deserves your own love and appreciation.
Take some time this week to try our one of Jolie’s tips towards self-love. It’s time to take a step towards becoming your own biggest fan!
Jolie is a passionate teenage I AM THAT GIRL Chapter leader in Beaverton, Oregon. Who, like many other girls, is sick of society making her feel inadequate and unheard, so has made it her goal to change the norms of this world and help create a new norm where girls are encouraged, heard, and accepted!