By: Caitlin Cheevers, Guest Blogger
Some months are just worse than others.
You get in a fight, you get fired from your job, or you have a stressful project coming up.
Whatever the reason, everything you do that month seems like a battle.
Last month was that month for me.
I had low self-confidence, didn’t get out of my apartment and do much, and my life as a whole took a back seat to near-constant anxiety and panic attacks.
I tried to power through it, but it felt like running through molasses.
I tried talking through it with friends, but my response to their encouragement always seemed to be “yeah, I know that, I just can’t snap out of it.”
Then, as cliché as it sounds, I saw a quote online and it finally hit me.
One of my fellow I AM THAT GIRL local chapter leaders posted an image on Facebook that said:
“It’s not your job to make people like you… It’s your job to be the best version of yourself possible.”
You see, I’d been struggling because it seemed like I was being blamed for everything recently. I was having a hard time because I just wanted people to like me, but it didn’t seem like anyone actually did.
This quote finally got it through my head: Not everyone is going to like me. Not everyone needs to like me. I just need to like myself.
After all, if I like (or even better, love) myself, I’ll be happier. And people gravitate toward happy people.
It’s not my job to make people like me, because I can’t control what other people like.
If I can get someone to like me by going fishing with them every Saturday, but I absolutely hate fishing, why would I do it? It’s not making me the best version of myself because it’s not making me happy.
I’ve been keeping this quote in mind lately, and I’ve felt my anxiety decrease little by little.
I’m doing things that make me happy and surrounding myself with people who support me as I am. People who just want me to be the best version of myself.
It’s a slow process, learning to love yourself for who you are rather than who other people want you to be. But it’s the most important thing you can learn.
How can you honor the best version of you? What do you need or who do you need to help remind you that THAT is your most important mission ever? Tell us about it here!
Caitlin Cheevers is the entire marketing department at an office technology dealer in her hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan. In her free time, she writes, designs, and publishes her own blog, www.andpossiblydinosaurs.com, where she obsesses over hockey, blogging, graphic design, DIY projects, Africa, feminism, books, travel, coffee, food, and possibly dinosaurs.
image via bestsayingsquotes.com