By: Allison Annala, IATG ContributorJune 28, 2016
How are you today? Doing okay? I wanted to send this note to let you know that I’m here for you. I know you may not feel like talking, and that’s okay. I just want you to know that I’m here to listen when you’re ready.
It’s natural for you to want to do this yourself, and I know that you’re more than capable. You’re awesome in that way. But on those days when the weight seems a bit too heavy, call me. I’ll help pick up a bit of the slack for a while. That’s what girlfriends are for, you know.
Remember when I was going through my uphill battle? You were the epitome of compassion, the definition of grace, and you helped me get through it one day at a time. Well, Sweetheart, now it’s my chance to return the favor. Try as you might to push me away, I will not take it personally. I’ll give you the space you need for the moment, and when the sun rises the next day (because it always will), I’ll be there again.
I’d love to tell you I have answers for you, but that’s just not the case.
Although, I am happy to offer any piece of advice that I deem worthy of your beautyfull self, you need to know that I am not an expert in your situation. I will not waste your time making up reasons to validate why you feel so crappy. I will not tell you to snap out of it and just live in the moment. I will not spend days pretending that everything is going to be okay when I can’t see that far into the future. I respect you too much to belittle your pain and your struggle. You deserve to feel. So feel all of the feels, girl… even the bad ones… and I’ll be here to hold you tightly through all of it.
You see, even though I may not completely understand what you’re going through, it doesn’t mean I don’t want to help you.
It just means that sometimes, I’m not sure how, because of this uncertainty, I may not be able to come up with the most eloquent speech, or the soundest advice… but I’m trying. Each day, I’m trying.
And I know that this is a singular battle. This is a phase of life you have to walk through. Some days you’ll be able to run, some days you’ll have to crawl… and other days you’ll be knocked completely on your ass, unable to put one foot in front of the other. On those days, my friend, we’ll piggyback it together.
I want you to know that when we’re not together I’m thinking of you often. Sending good vibes and prayers your way seems to be the typical train of thought on my end. I am so thankful for the friend that you’ve been to me. You were a tremendous light during my darkest days. My heart aches knowing that you’re on this journey, but I need you to understand, that even though this is your fight, you never have to feel like you’re in the ring alone. I believe in you girl! You are so strong and so amazing and I know you’re going to come out of this darkness one day and be better for it. Sure, it may be a long ride ahead. But I’m quite happy riding shotgun, so let’s do this, together. Because that’s what sisters do.
It’s time to show up. Reaching out to someone in need can be intimidating or scary, but it can also be necessary! Show up for a friend today. Give them a quick call or text letting them know you’re thinking of them, pick up an extra coffee or cupcake at the store, or simply leave them a sweet note. You never know the difference you’ll make!
Allison is a huge advocate for girls and women, particularly when it comes to body image and self-worth! She coaches gymnastics and teaches at her Alma Matter, the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater. Visit her blog www.allison-lifeisbeautiful.blogspot.com.