By Sophie Winik, Regular ContributorOctober 11, 2015
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What you’ll need:
- Lipstick (a color that makes you smile every time you see it or wear it)
- A mirror
- A positive adjective of your choice that you wish you would hear more often (Example: valuable or beautiful)
What you do:
- Use your lipstick to write on the mirror a positive message to yourself, using the
adjective you chose (Example: “You are valuable”)
*Repeat every week with a different message you see when you look at yourself in the mirror.
This is something I recently began doing for myself after experiencing many days where I didn’t feel valued for my hard work. When you go through days where your confidence declines, when you feel like no one appreciates you and your abilities, when you feel like no one respects and acknowledges you, it becomes harder and harder to maintain a strong attitude that you are, in fact, a valuable person. When people bring you down or when you feel yourself losing confidence in yourself and your vulnerability coming out more, it’s so easy to give up and to forget how much others appreciate you.
I decided to write myself a message, something that would make me never forget the truth. I wrote: “You are valuable.”
It’s been on my mirror for about a week now, and every time I feel a sense of helplessness I look through the mirror and am reminded that I am valued. I matter. You matter. We all matter. Let us not forget it.
It’s important that we take care of ourselves and that we recognize our own feelings. I was able to figure out what was upsetting me to the point where I felt unheard and devalued. I recognized what it was that made me upset. I knew exactly how I felt. The next step was to figure out how to change my mentality.
Words are powerful.
Words can convey positive or negative meanings. Feelings are strong. When you have negative feelings, they can last a long time and you may wonder if you’ll ever feel like yourself again. However, positive feelings are just as strong. When you’re happy, sometimes it feel as if you could smile forever. My goal was to create a positive outcome for myself, something that would impact me and make me change my attitude. The simple act of writing a note to myself was more powerful than I would have thought. Now every time anyone walks into my bathroom, they too can feel valued when they see their own reflection through the words.
Don’t ever forget your worth. Don’t let others bring you down.
Don’t lose your confidence simply because some people cannot see you for who you are. Don’t let others take away your ingredients and substitute them for what they think matters. You have the power to create your own recipe.
How do you maintain your self-confidence? What message needs to be written on your mirror? Tell us below!
Sophie is a preschool teacher in Southern California. When she is not teaching the little ones she is writing stories about her experiences with bullying, with the hope that her words will help others stand up against bullying and be another voice to end the hate. Sophie is also an artist who loves to paint and draw and is studying to be an art therapist, specifically working with children. Check out her anti-bullying stories atkindrevolutioncampaign.wordpress.com.
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