By: Dana Zillgitt, Regular Contributor
Humour and food were always the way to my heart. Combine the two with a little bit of wit and I’ll be putty in your hands. Over the years, I’ve realized that I need a man who can keep up with strength, wit, and smarts, and who can sass me right back without a second thought. I’ve fallen in love a few times before here and there but nothing that ever really lasted. And I’m a sucker for romantically grand gestures that are stupid funny. Hey, what can I say—an SNL reject still needs love too, right? And I always wondered, why am I still single? Why am I still so alone?
I’m a little rusty around the edges and my sense of humour can be incredibly dry. I’m the definition of complicatedly flawed and a little rough at times. And like Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” Over time, I’ve realized I’m my own kind of beautiful. I’m worth love in all its manifestations and all its heart palpitating salutations. I am worth having somebody fall head over heels in love with me and I deserve to feel like I don’t have to run away. And that took years to realize. I am not everybody’s cup of tea—and sometimes, I’m not even my own biggest fan. But everybody has their good, bad, and coyote ugly days. And I’m just trying to enjoy the rollercoaster ride with the view from the top.
Over the years, I’ve finally realized I am not defined by my relationship status. I am not defined by the lack of a ring on my left ring finger, and I am not defined by whomever decides to share my bed or lack there of. Some days, a queen just needs to have the covers to herself. And some days, a queen just needs to act like one of the common folk. But realizing you’re a queen is the first step to realizing that you deserve only the best in life. And you should never settle for anything less than butterflies.
When everyone around you is coupled up, being single can be challenging. Coupling does NOT define who you are! YOU do!
- Try sitting with solitude: find the activities that give YOU and you alone pleasure and rock them!
- Why do so many girls define themselves through romantic relationships? What is unhealthy about this?
Dana has her BA in International Affairs & Spanish as well as a mild obsession with rescue animals and all things caffeinated. She’s mastered the art of the selfie, fort building, and even the sass battle. Plus, she can quote 95% of Anchorman and Zoolander.
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