By Devin Riggs, Regular ContributorAugust 16, 2015
Hi hello, how are you? I just wanted to check in, see how you were doing with all the changes happening lately. It’s been pretty crazy. I know you’ve been really stressed out and anxious about leaving home and diving into the unknown. Our good friend depression has been coming by more frequently unannounced, and I just want to tell you; you’re handling it pretty well. You’re getting out of bed each morning with purpose. You’re checking things off the to do list (slowly but surely). You’re taking small steps to make this new place feel cozier. You’re doing great!
I know how hard you’re working. I know how difficult this transition is. I know that we haven’t quite made it to the other side yet. We’ve still got a lot to do and see and feel, which is exciting and terrifying (our favorite!).
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Here are some things I want you to remember for when times get tough (because we both know they will):
Breathe. Take really deep wonderful full breaths. Fill your heart up with glorious oxygen. You’ve got a lot of fresh air just waiting to energize you! Take a moment to reset and reframe and relax. Everything is going to be okay.
Be Present. We have a tendency to get ahead of ourselves or get stuck in the past. This is the only moment we’ve got. Don’t waste it worrying about all the things you could have, should have, would have done. Don’t waste it worrying about all the moments that aren’t here yet. Be here, in this moment. It will be gone so quickly. Embrace it. Enjoy it.
Do not make yourself small for others. You are an incredible person with so much to offer this world. Refuse to let others lessen you and your accomplishments. Those who try are not worth your time. Let them go.
Forgiveness is key. Own up to your mistakes but do not let them eat at you. You are human and humans make mistakes. Apologize, learn, and move forward.
Be kind to yourself. You love to stress and overwork yourself. Take some time off from the daily grind. Do something for you that makes you happy. Don’t worry about making others happy while you’re doing it.
Call your friends. Just see how they are and catch up. Make plans to see them. Show them that you’re here for them, even if you’re far away. And also…
When the dark gets darker, call someone. Please. Reach out. Don’t hide within yourself. Don’t for one second believe that you must take on the entire burden. There are people in this world who love you and care about you and will be at your side whenever you need them.
All you have to do is ask. Ask for help. Ask for clarification. Ask for space. Ask for whatever it is you need.
Drink water. And eat well. I know first hand that sometimes you forego those necessities because you don’t think you have time or you avoid it because you are lazy. Make time. Plan ahead. Make your health a priority.
Each day is fresh and clean and ready to be experienced. You’re going to have bad days when you come home angry or sad or exhausted from all of life’s games. Let those days go. Remember that a new day is coming fresh full of potential and adventure. You get to write whatever story you want.
You can do this. I promise.
Always remember, I love you and I like you.
What words of wisdom do you need to tell yourself right now? Do you ever take time to do these ten things? What else helps you? Tell us below!
Devin has a degree in education with a focus in English. She is working to publish her first collection of poetry while also learning the art of patience. Her passions include Doctor Who, penguins, hats and scarves, potatoes, dancing, photography, and making people happy. She believes in the healing powers of music, spending time in the great outdoors, and a good night sleep.
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