By Danielle Meeker, Regular ContributorNovember 13, 2015
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I was recently asked by a friend who I hadn’t talked to in a while if I had a boyfriend. When I told her no, she proceeded to ask me why not and to tell me that I should try the dating app, Tinder. She said it would be fun, and they weren’t all guys just looking for a hookup. I laughed it off, but internally I thought there would be no way I would use that site, fun or not.Call me old fashioned, but I’d like to meet a guy “the old fashioned way.” In real life. When the time is right for me.
Fun fact: I’m not actively looking for a relationship.
For now, I’m fine being single, hanging out with people, and focusing a large portion of my energy on doing well at my fairly new job. My priority is not on finding a boyfriend, husband, other half etc. But when she asked me why I didn’t have one, it got me thinking. Do I need one? Is that the status quo for someone in my age bracket? I get it... people all around me seem to be in relationships, getting married, getting serious with whoever it is they have next to them…but here I am without one.
Even though I wouldn’t be opposed, and do at some point want to be in a relationship with someone, it doesn’t tear me apart that I’m not with anyone right now.
I work until around 10pm every night, and that’s really not conducive to a social life. So I will be patient and continue to come home to sweatpants and a container of ice cream, instead of party crashing and bar hopping.
You don’t have to be in a relationship with someone to be happy. You, especially, don’t have to throw yourself into a relationship just because everyone else seems to be in one. The right person will come along when the time is right, and either you’ll be ready for it or you won’t. That’s completely up to you. Until you’re ready, you and I can kick back and relax, and if you are ready, then get out there! There are literally billions of people waiting to meet you. Go have some fun!
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Danielle has a BA in English, emphasis in Creative Writing. She is a marine mammal trainer on Oahu, working with dolphins, sea lions and penguins. She loves singing, photography, iced coffee, and everything water related. Check out her YouTube channel DanielleMeekerTalks and Instagram @dmeekertalks.
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