"Needing" a Relationship

By Danielle Meeker, Regular ContributorNovember 13, 2015

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I was recently asked by a friend who I hadn’t talked to in a while if I had a boyfriend. When I told her no, she proceeded to ask me why not and to tell me that I should try the dating app, Tinder. She said it would be fun, and they weren’t all guys just looking for a hookup. I laughed it off, but internally I thought there would be no way I would use that site, fun or not.Call me old fashioned, but I’d like to meet a guy “the old fashioned way.” In real life. When the time is right for me.

Fun fact: I’m not actively looking for a relationship.

For now, I’m fine being single, hanging out with people, and focusing a large portion of my energy on doing well at my fairly new job. My priority is not on finding a boyfriend, husband, other half etc. But when she asked me why I didn’t have one, it got me thinking. Do I need one? Is that the status quo for someone in my age bracket? I get it... people all around me seem to be in relationships, getting married, getting serious with whoever it is they have next to them…but here I am without one.

Even though I wouldn’t be opposed, and do at some point want to be in a relationship with someone, it doesn’t tear me apart that I’m not with anyone right now.

I work until around 10pm every night, and that’s really not conducive to a social life. So I will be patient and continue to come home to sweatpants and a container of ice cream, instead of party crashing and bar hopping.

You don’t have to be in a relationship with someone to be happy. You, especially, don’t have to throw yourself into a relationship just because everyone else seems to be in one. The right person will come along when the time is right, and either you’ll be ready for it or you won’t. That’s completely up to you. Until you’re ready, you and I can kick back and relax, and if you are ready, then get out there! There are literally billions of people waiting to meet you. Go have some fun!

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About Danielle

DANIELLE_MEEKER_writer_bio.jpgDanielle has a BA in English, emphasis in Creative Writing. She is a marine mammal trainer on Oahu, working with dolphins, sea lions and penguins. She loves singing,  photography, iced coffee, and everything water related. Check out her YouTube channel DanielleMeekerTalks and Instagram @dmeekertalks.

 

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  • commented 2016-01-30 16:12:28 -0800
    Love it!
  • commented 2015-11-25 08:00:31 -0800
    Cool i toatally will today we held hands! :)
  • commented 2015-11-24 09:10:50 -0800
    Hi Sarah, I’m so glad I was able to help you and I’m happy that you are happy! He is a lucky boy to be with someone as wonderful as you. :) If you ever need advice or someone to talk to again, I’ll be here :)
  • commented 2015-11-24 08:10:33 -0800
    Hi, Danielle i am so thankfull for your advise and now i’m taked again lol :) if it wasn’t for you boosting my confedance i wouldn’t have found him thanks so much
    Sarah
  • commented 2015-11-18 08:40:38 -0800
    Ok i will
  • commented 2015-11-17 12:17:22 -0800
    Ok Miss Sarah, keep in mind that it is one hundred percent normal to cry about this. And I mean, to potentially cry a lot. Try aligning yourself with a few friends who can either try to brighten your day or will let you cry and support you no matter what. I know it’s hard, but do your best not to dwell on it. Be with friends, keep engaged in your classes and do your best to feel your feelings without letting them take over your day
  • commented 2015-11-17 08:12:08 -0800
    Hi Daniel, at school today i have been crying about my now ex i am really upset and dunno wat to do
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:56:03 -0800
    Ok, talk tomorrow
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:48:08 -0800
    i gtg talk tomorrow
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:43:11 -0800
    swansea in south wales i think ill try some of those thanks but i am really stuck with ideas to do anything fun to do
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:37:59 -0800
    Go to the movies, the zoo, the beach, an aquarium, see a sports game, go on a hike, bowling, stay home and color, stay home and watch a movie, pick up some arts and crafts to do, read a book, cook, bake etc. It may depend a little bit on where you live.
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:18:49 -0800
    do you have any ideas of fun things to do maybe thanks
  • commented 2015-11-16 10:02:28 -0800
    Hi Sarah. Well, no matter how long you were in a relationship with him, it is completely normal to be feeling a myriad of emotions. What he did is completely unacceptable to do to someone, and I want you to know that there are people in your life who care about you and want to make sure you are happy. Surround yourself with those people. If you want to be alone for a while, take some time for yourself. Do things that make you happy. If that is ice cream and movies, great. If it’s going out with some girlfriends for drinks, that’s perfect too.
  • commented 2015-11-16 09:11:39 -0800
    Hi, I don’t know how to handle this I have messaged him saying that we are over and to never talk to me again now I’m having all these different emotions what should I do?
  • commented 2015-11-16 08:47:27 -0800
    Hi Sarah. I’m so sorry he did that…how can I help? I’m here to talk and give as much advice as you need. :)
  • commented 2015-11-14 12:55:21 -0800
    Hi I am new, and I am currently in a relationship but I found out that he was cheating on me with 5 or 6 girls. Please can u massage back soon because I need advice. Thanks lots Sarah
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